My Review: This handy book opens a new world to us church going people on the reasons why children do not stay in church and why they are in the sense of this book “Already Gone”. This book goes through reasons how to change this in our children, how sometimes Sunday school can actually be causing our children to drift away from the church and ways we can fix this in our families.
I found the research fascinating as I had heard people talk about it, but have never seen firm research on why this happens. This is an important book for parents to read who are concerned about their children growing up and staying in the church. I may not agree with everything, but I think there was some very helpful info in this book. – Martha
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and the book:
Already Gone: Why your kids will quit church and what you can do to stop it
New Leaf Publishing Group/Master Books (May 28, 2009)
***Special thanks to Robert Parrish of New Leaf Publishing Group for sending me a review copy.***
Ken Ham, founder and president, Answers in Genesis. He is one of the most in-demand speakers in the world today, representing Answers in Genesis (AiG) at many events throughout the year.
Visit the author’s website and book blog.
C. Britt Beemer is chairman and founder of America’s Research Group (ARG), a consumer behavior research and strategic marketing firm. He is a speaker at major trade and industry events.
Visit the author’s website.
List Price: $12.99
Paperback: 176 pages
Publisher: New Leaf Publishing Group/Master Books (May 28, 2009)
AND NOW…THE FIRST CHAPTER:
An Epidemic on Our Hands
1. A disease or anything resembling a disease; attacking or affecting many individuals in a community or a population simultaneously.
2. Anything which takes possession of the minds of people as an epidemic does of their bodies; as, an epidemic of terror.
A majority of twenty-somethings 61% of todays young adults had been churched at one point during their teen years but they are now spiritually disengaged (i.e., not actively attending church, reading the Bible, or praying).
Guard what has been entrusted to you, avoiding worldly and empty chatter and the opposing arguments of what is falsely called knowledge which some have professed and thus gone astray from the faith. Grace be with you (1 Tim. 6:2021).
I dare you. I dare you to try it this Sunday. Look to the right, and look to the left. While the pastor delivers his message, while the worship team sings their songs, while the youth pastor gives his announcements, look to the right and look to the left. Look at the children and look at the teens around you. Many of them will be familiar faces. They are the faces of your friends sons and daughters. They are the friends that your children bring home after youth group. They are your children . . . the ones who have been faithfully following you to church for years.
Now, imagine that two-thirds of them have just disappeared.
Thats right, two-thirds of them the ones who go to secular school, even those homeschooled or sent to Christian school, the boys and the girls, the kids who are leaders of the schools Bible club, the kids who sit in the back row with their baseball caps pulled low over their eyes imagine that two-thirds of them have just disappeared
from your church.
Yes, look to the left and look to the right this Sunday. Put down your church bulletin; look at those kids and imagine that two-thirds of them arent even there. Why?
Because they are already gone.
Its time to wake up and see the tidal wave washing away the foundation of your church. The numbers are in and they dont look good. From across Christendom the reports are the same: A mass exodus is underway. Most youth of today will not be coming to church tomorrow Nationwide polls and denominational reports are showing that the next generation is calling it quits on the traditional church. And its not just
happening on the nominal fringe; its happening at the core of the faith.
Is that just a grim prediction? Is that just the latest arm-twisting from reactionary conservatives who are trying to instill fear into the parents and the teachers of the next generation? No, its not just a prediction. Its a reality as we will document clearly from commissioned professional and statistically valid research later in this book. In fact, its already happening . . . just like it did in England; its happening here in North America. Now. Like the black plagues that nearly wiped out the general population of Europe, a spiritual black plague has almost killed the next generation of European believers. A few churches are surviving. Even fewer are thriving. The vast majority are slowly dying. Its a spiritual epidemic, really. A wave of spiritual decay and death has almost entirely stripped a continent of its godly heritage, and now the same disease is infecting North America.
Many of us saw it coming but didnt want to admit it. After all, our churches looked healthy on the surface. We saw bubbling Sunday schools and dynamic youth ministries. As parents and grandparents we appreciatively graced the doors of the church, faithfully dragging our kids with us, as our ages pushed into the 40s and 50s and beyond. But a vacuum was forming: there were the college students who no longer showed up for the Sunday worship service, the newly married couple that never came back after the honeymoon. . . . Sure, there were exceptions and we were grateful for their dedication. For the most part, however, we saw that the 20- and 30-somethings from our congregations were increasingly AWOL. To be honest, none of us really wanted to admit it, did we? And so we began to justify to ourselves that maybe it wasnt happening at all.
Recent and irrefutable statistics are forcing us to face the truth. Respected
pollster George Barna was one of the first to put numbers to the epidemic. Based on interviews with 22,000 adults and over 2,000 teenagers in 25 separate surveys, Barna unquestionably quantified the seriousness of the situation: six out of ten 20-somethings who were involved in a church during their teen years are already gone.1 Despite strong
levels of spiritual activity during the teen years, most 20-somethings disengage from active participation in the Christian faith during their young adult years and often beyond that. Consider these findings:
Nearly 50% of teens in the United States regularly attend church-related services or activities.
More than three-quarters talk about their faith with their friends.
Three out of five teens attend at least one youth group meeting at a church during a typical three-month period.
One-third of teenagers participate in Christian clubs at school
Thats all well and good, but do these numbers stand the test of time? Is the involvement of churched children and teens continuing into young adulthood? Unfortunately not. Not even close. The Barna research is showing that religious activity in the teen years does not translate into spiritual commitment as individuals move into their 20s and 30s (and our own research, you are about to discover, will illuminate you with reasons as to why this occurs).
Most of them are pulling away from church, are spending less time alone studying their Bibles, are giving very little financially to Christian causes, are ceasing to volunteer for church activities, and are turning their backs on Christian media such as magazines, radio, and television. What does this look like numerically for todays
61% of todays young adults who were regular church attendees are now spiritually disengaged. They are not actively attending church, praying, or reading their Bibles.
20% of those who were spiritually active during high school are maintaining a similar level of commitment.
19% of teens were never reached by the Christian community, and they are still disconnected from the Church or any other Christian activities.
Shortly after Barna blew the whistle on the problem, individual denominations and churches began to take an honest look at what was happening as their children and teens began disappearing into the young adult years. Their findings confirmed the trends that Barna had found. Dozens of groups have looked at the issue from slightly different
angles. Each study yields slightly different results, but their conclusions are unanimously startling. For example, when the Southern Baptist Convention researched the problem, they discovered that more than two-thirds of young adults who attended a Protestant church for at least a year in high school stopped attending for at least a year between
the ages of 18 and 22.
There are exceptions, of course. Here and there we find a smattering of churches with vibrant participation from the 20-something age group. In some cities, we are seeing congregations develop that are made up almost exclusively of people from this age group. But unfortunately, these are the exceptions and not the rule. The trends that we are seeing can no longer be ignored. The epidemic is a reality. The abandoned church buildings of Europe are really just buildings, yet they are graphic symbols warnings to those of us who are seeing the same trends in our local congregations: we are one generation away from the evaporation of church as we know it. Slowly but certainly the
church of the future is headed toward the morgue and will continue to do so unless we come to better understand what is happening and implement a clear, biblical plan to circumvent it.
The trends are known; more and more are finding out about them but the vital question concerns what is the root problem of why this is happening. We need to know why if we are going to formulate possible solutions.
Twenty somethings struggle to stay active in Christian faith.
20% churched as teen, spiritually active at age 29
61% churched as teen, disengaged during twenties
19% never churched as teen, still unconnected
Who, Why, and What?
I began traveling and speaking in the United States in the 1980s. As an Australian, it didnt take long before I felt I had a good feeling for the pulse of American Christianity . . . and I saw some tremendous needs. At the time, America could rightly be labeled the greatest Christian nation on earth, the center of the economic world and
although the Church was equipped with nearly every conceivable tool and luxury for developing and expressing its faith I could see that the Church was in great need.
Since moving to the United States in 1987, I have spoken in hundreds of different churches from many denominations, numerous Bible colleges, seminaries, and Christian conferences on American soil. I have talked with the pastors; Ive listened to those in the congregations; I have experienced worship in almost every conceivable style and form. The ministry of Answers in Genesis is deeply committed to the American church. In fact, the faltering health of the Church in the greatest Christian nation on earth is what motivated my wife and me to move our family to this country in the first place. My wife and I testify that God called us as missionaries to America particularly the American Church to call it back to the authority of the Word of God beginning in Genesis.
The Bible calls the Church the Body of Christ. Today, over 20 years after our move, the statistics prove that His body is bleeding profusely. The next generation of believers is draining from the churches, and it causes me great personal and professional concern. Ive sat in the grand, but vacant, churches of Europe. I know where this is headed. Where Europe is today spiritually, America will be tomorrow
and for the same reasons, if the Church does not recognize where the foundational problem lies and address it.
When I began to seriously ponder Barnas numbers, naturally I wanted to find out more. For help, I called on a trusted and respected supporter of Answers in Genesis. As the chairman of Americas Research Group, and as a leading marketing research and business analyst expert, Britt Beemer specializes in studying human behavior. Over the decades he has conducted dozens and dozens of surveys for leading corporations as well as small businesses. He analyzes the marketplace and the clientele, and makes recommendations that keep the companies excelling in a competitive world. When we were considering building the Creation Museum, we asked Britt if we could reasonably
dream of 250,000 people visiting each year. Britt did his research and predicted that 400,000 people would visit the museum in the first year! He was wrong by two days. (The 400,000th visitor entered the museum 363 days after we opened.) Needless to say, when we had questions about the epidemic of people leaving church, we turned to him for answers.
Our goal was simple: We wanted to know who was leaving, why they were leaving, and what (if anything) could be done about it. To that end, Britt and his Americas Research Group initiated a qualified study with probing questions to get powerful insight into the epidemic the Church is facing. To get to the core of the issues, his team studied only those whom we are most concerned about: every person in our
sample said they attended church every week or nearly every week when they were growing up, but never or seldom go today.
We selected those between 20 and 30 who once attended conservative and evangelical churches. We wanted to look at the churches that claim to be Bible-believing congregations with Bible-preaching pastors. According to Barna, about 6 percent of people in their 20s and 30s can be considered evangelical. This is about the same as the number of teenagers (5 percent).4 The results from Britts research would
undoubtedly have been more drastic if we had considered more liberal congregations. We deliberately skewed the research toward conservatives so that we could all understand that whatever problems showed up would be much worse for the church population in general.
After 20,000 phone calls, with all the raw data in hand, Britt began to analyze the numbers. The things he discovered as well as the things he didnt discover began to shed light (in a quite astonishing way) on this monumental problem facing the future of Christianity.
The sample included:
1,000 individuals from coast to coast
Balanced according to population and gender
With just over half being aged 25-29
With under half being aged 20-24
First of all, he didnt discover anything abnormal about the group as a whole. There werent an unusual number of homeschoolers, or secular school kids, who were leaving. There wasnt a significant number of females compared to males that had decided to leave. In other words, the 60 percent plus of the evangelical kids who choose to leave the church look pretty much like the 40 percent who decide to stay at least on the outside. The breakdown of those who left really fits the profile of the evangelical population in general.
So at first, the who question didnt seem to give us many answers. So then, why? Why did they leave the church? When we asked them this open-ended question, we got an earful.
At first, we were surprised (and a little disappointed) that there wasnt a single reason. It would have been nice to find a single identifiable virus somewhere. How simple it would have been to stereotype the whole group and point out one germ that had been causing the sickness to spread. But the numbers didnt say that. A single identifiable culprit didnt appear.
Other researchers have come to similar conclusions. When LifeWay did their research for the Southern Baptist Convention, 97 percent of the dropouts listed one or more specific life-change issues as a reason they left church. The most frequent reason they gave for leaving church was almost an indifferent shrug of the shoulders.
The top 10 reasons were:
1. 12% Boring service
2. 12% Legalism
3. 11% Hypocrisy of leaders
4. 10% Too political
5. 9% Self-righteous people
6. 7% Distance from home
7. 6% Not relevant to personal growth
8. 6% God would not condemn to hell
9. 5% Bible not relevant/not practical
10. 5% Couldnt find my preferred denomination in the area
I simply wanted a break from church (27 percent). The transition into college and adulthood also affected many: I moved to college and stopped attending church (25 percent), and work responsibilities prevented me from attending (23 percent). Others simply moved too far away from the church to continue attending (22 percent). In all honesty, these kinds of results just seemed too shallow for us at Answers in Genesis. And they seemed too superficial to Britt as well. We have a massive epidemic on our hands, and researchers seemed to be content with answers that sounded like I just didnt feel very good, or I wasnt there because I chose to be someplace else. Too many researchers accept simple, superficial answers. They acknowledge that there is a massive shift taking place in the spiritual lives of young adults, but when it comes to really figuring out whats going on, they kind of throw up their hands and sigh, I guess thats just the way it is!
End of story? Not hardly. This is precisely why we teamed up with an expert like Britt Beemer who probes, and probes, and probes until he finds the right reasons. We found the real reasons, though some of them will shake many churches to their very core.
Never content with the easy answers that people give to justify their behavior, Britt is an expert in consumer behavior who taps into their minds as he finds out what people really believe in order to reveal what is driving their behavior. Until Answers in Genesis commissioned this study, never before had this type of research been conducted and our research was formulated to not just deeply probe what people believe but answer the questions in regard to WHY people believe what they do. We can now identify the real answers as well as the causes affecting young people who leave the church.
As Britt studied his data, it was obvious that multiple issues are behind the exodus from church. The why? question would prove to be more complicated than many expected. But soon, as the numbers became more clear, patterns emerged, assumptions were destroyed, and quirky findings surfaced. One of the most important and startling findings turned out not to answer the why? question, but rather the when? question.
Of all the 20 to 29-year-old evangelicals who attended church regularly but no longer do so:
95% of them attended church regularly during their elementary and middle school years
55% attended church regularly during high school
11% were still going to church during college
I think this is one of the most revealing and yet challenging statistics in the entire survey and something we didnt expect. Most people assume that students are lost in college. Weve always been trying to prepare our kids for college (and I still think thats a critical thing to do, of course), but it turns out that only 11 percent of those who have left
the Church did so during the college years. Almost 90 percent of them were lost in middle school and high school. By the time they got to college they were already gone! About 40 percent are leaving the Church during elementary and middle school years! Most people assumed that elementary and middle school is a fairly neutral environment where children toe the line and follow in the footsteps of their parents spirituality. Not so. I believe that over half of these kids were lost before we got them into high school! Whatever diseases are fueling the epidemic of losing our young people, they are infecting our students much, much earlier than most assumed. Let me say this again:
We are losing many more people by middle school and many more by high school than we will ever lose in college.
Many parents will fork out big bucks to send these students to Christian colleges, hoping to protect them in their faith. But the fact is, theyre already gone. They were lost while still in the fold. They were disengaging while they were still sitting in the pews. They were preparing their exit while they were faithfully attending youth groups and
What a reminder to parents (and Christian leaders) to do exactly what Gods Word instructs us to do to train up a child in the way he should go . . . (Prov. 22:6). And further, These words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house,
when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up (Deut. 6:67; NKJV). What a reminder to teach children from when they are born and a reminder to be diligent in providing the right sort of training/curricula, etc., for children.
Sadly, I think many see childrens programs as entertainment, teaching Bible stories, and so on, but when they get older we need to think about preparing them somehow for college but as our research showed, by then they are already gone! For most, it was basically too late!
This topic regarding when we begin to lose our kids is where the study began to get very interesting and very illuminating. For example:
Those who no longer believe that all of the accounts and stories in the Bible are
39.8% first had doubts in middle school
43.7% first had their doubts in high school
10.6% had their first doubts during college
Clearly, there is a slightly delayed reaction going on. The doubts come first, followed shortly by departure. Students didnt begin doubting in college, they simply departed by college. Again, if you look around in your church today, two-thirds of those who are sitting among us have already left in their hearts, it will only take a couple years before their bodies are absent as well.
The Beemer study has a tremendous amount to offer the churches, the pastors, the parents, and the researchers who are sincerely looking into this problem. Britts study didnt look just at behavior; he looked at belief. By making correlations between those beliefs and the behavior and intentions of those who have left the Church, the veil was lifted, powerful new insights were revealed, and very surprising results were
illuminated. In the pages ahead we will give you the highlights of some of these numbers. But brace yourself, because in many instances the results are shocking, and they point a finger at many well-intentioned, firmly established programs and traditions of churches that are utterly failing the children who faithfully attend every Sunday morning.
You will need to swallow hard and be prepared to consider things very carefully; Be ready to give up long-held, cherished notions in regard to certain church programs of which perhaps you would never have considered the slightest possibility that there was such a serious problem as this research clearly showed.
First, we will investigate key aspects of the epidemic, including:
the effects of Sunday school
the two different kinds of kids who are leaving the Church and why its so important to know the difference
why the Church has lost its value and is now considered irrelevant
Second, we will investigate the solutions that are within our grasp:
how to defend the Christian faith and uphold the authority of the Bible from the very first verse
what it means (and doesnt mean) to live by the Bible
the revolution that is reclaiming church in this culture
Along the way the investigation will be spiced up with a variety of fascinating findings regarding the following:
unbiblical church traditions
beliefs about Genesis
If you are a parent, a pastor, or a Christian educator, then this research is for you. Or maybe you are one of the millions of students who are thinking about leaving the Church or have already done so. If so, I challenge you to let the numbers speak for themselves and then be ready to allow God to use you in new ways to make a difference for the sake of the next generation and the Church. Even though the results were obtained in America, because it has had the greatest Christian influence in the world and has been an enormous influence on the world (Christian literature, missionaries, etc.), it is likely that such research would show similar (at best) or much worse results in other
Yes, I challenge you. This Sunday, look to the left and then look to the right. According to our research, two-thirds of the children and teens you see will be gone in a matter of years. What can be done about it? Plenty, as you will soon see!
Britts Bit: The AIG-ARG Connection
On behalf of Ken Ham, I want to thank you for picking up this book. I make my living generating numbers and statistics, and they are an important part of my personal ministry. When numbers and statistics are interpreted correctly they mean something. They arent just arbitrary measurements for things that dont matter. Numbers do
matter. They represent things that are real, that are measurable, that can be observed, and (in many cases) that can be changed with the right remedies. Thats what Americas Research Group is all about. At ARG we draw conclusions that are meaningful to our clients. We are behavioral scientists who study human behavior. ARG provides each
client a foundation built on practical, useful information that ensures their ongoing success.
Thats why I am such a firm believer in Answers in Genesis. Not only is their ministry important, but AIG is a reminder of what God can do through one person who steps out in faith and allows God to use them to defend and proclaim the truth. Ken moved his family to the United States more than 20 years ago, having started a ministry out of the trunk of his car and a few cardboard boxes in his house. I dont think anyone would have believed (particularly Ken) what God had in store for a ministry of such humble beginnings.
Today, the Answers in Genesis website gets millions of visitors per year. Tens of thousands of resources (books, DVDs, curricula, magazines, etc.) move through AIGs warehouse year after year. A small army of trained speakers are reaching tens of thousands of people face-to-face on every continent on the globe except Antarctica. (As far as I know, no one has volunteered to go there quite yet!)
I love keeping track of the AIG ministry and what people say about it. Ive been tracking public opinion religiously (pun intended), and I have a deep desire to protect and to equip this ministry. When the Creation Museum opened, it created a national media tsunami, and at least one-third of the comments voiced about the ministry were clearly negative. The naysayers had their day, but they didnt last. Today, only 1/20th of the comments about the museum are negative. I think that is an amazing accomplishment. As I projected, 400,000 people came through those doors in the first year.
I make my living studying human behavior and attitudes statistically, which gives me a unique viewpoint of how and why people act the way they do. I sincerely invite you to come along with my friend and ministry cohort Ken Ham as he takes you on a personal tour through my numbers. Ill be throwing in my bit on a regular basis, giving you my take on the statistics and their importance. As you begin to understand the trends of the past, and see where the Church is at present, you will discover highly practical action points that will make a difference in the future. I believe that if you get a handle on a few of the numbers that describe what is happening in the Church today, you will see the potential for change that resides within you as a pastor, a parent, or a Christian educator. And thats important. The next generation is counting on us.