Does it ever seem like to you that you are catching up in age with those older than you and  they are not getting older, just you are? I have been feeling like that lately, like suddenly those who were way older are not so much older anymore.
Getting more mature and older seems to do that to a person, I guess!  I have wonderful friends who are my moms age, in fact my closest friends are moms age and my mom, so I guess that may be why. I relate more to people those ages than the ones more my age. It could be too in the way I grew up too. My mom was not too old when she had me, so  maybe that helped us to be closer, I am not sure. <p> I have caught myself though looking at young people getting married and thinking ‘They are so young to be getting married, having babies…." "Do they know what they are getting in for?" I catch myself though because it is easy to say that now, but people said it when I got married too! 
<p> I think it was watching a new mother and father with their baby and the tears of joy in their eyes and the joy in their voices when they exclaimed "I have a daughter!!!" "She is mine!!"   it takes you somewhere to a place where  you as an outsider can look in and think of reality of them having the responsibility of a child, where also  the tears come to your eyes as you watch them as you shared in it with working through it with them.  They thanked me and tell me how much they appreciate it and I left with this feeling of a job well done. It is hard work, but that is why I do it. It is the joy that a new life has come and you helped, not just physically, but with emotional support.  It is a wonderful feeling! <p>
It helps me remember why I do this day to day sometimes seemingly useless jobs of cooking, cleaning, taking care of clothes and other things as you remember where you started.  It is when it started with the tiny baby who was so helpless, depending on you for everything and you were so in love, but that is the same one that can really drive you crazy at times now that they are toddlers!! The same ones who are gobbling up food like they are starving, and yet the same ones who kiss you good night and tell you how much they love you.
We work hard to bring them into this world and it is with joy we accept them, then as we raise them we have the hard labor again of teaching them what is right and wrong, how not to scream for things, to be polite and to just try to be presentable!!!! We want to pass on a love for God, we want to teach them all sorts of things and yet inside we wonder how on earth we are going to do it as we still feel like a little child ourselves! <p> So, as we all get older, just remember probably we all feel young inside, time passes quicker than you think and  take each day as it comes. Rejoice that we have today, for you never know when God will call us home. 

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  1. pbrfans1

    It's funny because I was thinking the other day that when we were growing up I always thought of you as so much older than me and now that I get older I just feel like we are equals…and now we are good friends instead of just being my older cousin. So I guess to me you never got older…I just did. =)

  2. Anonymous

    My motto concerning aging is that you're only as old as you think you are. I've known younger folks (40s) who acted like they were elderly and I've known folks in their 60s, 70s and 80s who were still going strong and didn't plan on slowing down anytime soon.

  3. Anonymous

    This is a wonderful post, Martha. I can identify with you in so many ways. It is good to remember the magical beginnings and the "first love" that we have for our children and our husbands. It puts the hard work and sacrifice into perspective. Thank you. ~Diana
    It's funny, I also remember thinking you were so much older then me and that you and Bonita had more in common because I was "so much younger". Good grief!

  4. Lilyofthevalley4

    Well written! That is so true… πŸ™‚

  5. cappuccinosmom

    That is a beautiful thought. πŸ™‚

    I'm still finding it wierd when I notice someone is younger than me. I realized this year that there are doctors my age, and in a few years, doctors in thier 20's will look like "spring chickens" to me. And it never fails to amaze when I realize that the soldier/sailor/Marine we've just run into is probably 5 or 6 years younger than me! I think the same thing about young couples now–"Wow, that's young to marry/have a baby!" Even though I did the very same thing.

    Maybe I'm just in denial about getting older. πŸ™‚

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